Love and Affection

(Insert my man laugh) So I love this TV show so much! I thought this would help me explain my next topic. As I said in my introduction, I call everyone I am comfortable with 'sweetie'. We took this communication in one of my classes my junior year and I was classified as affectionate. In other words, I communicate through touch better than I communicate verbally.

Growing up, my family was not touchy-feely or super affectionate. Which is fine, I never felt like I was missing out on anything; we were a family, we knew we loved each other despite the many disputes. I realized I felt disconnected with my peers or friends, until I took that test. Expressing my feelings verbally doesn't come easy unless I am just naturally comfortable with someone and that is rare for me.

Now just because I communicate by touch (or affection as I like to say) this doesn't mean I cuddle with everyone. That's just down right creepy. This just means I have a different way of showing how I feel. With the whole music thing, I relied on music to express things for me. This worked for certain people but not all. I slowly learned how to show affection without having to completely put myself out there. I call people "sweetie". No, this is normal for most people but some people have asked me why I do this. What I lack in talking to people, I make up for in 'sweeties'. As strange as this sounds, it works for me.

Another topic I have been asked about is the B-word. Yes, yes I know, shocking, I am talking about Boys. I don't kiss every boy I go on a date with, I am however comfortable with them holding my hand while we are on the date. I don't do cutesy girly girl very well. So in place of that, I hold their hand which sends a message to other guys, "Back off boys, this guy was man enough to ask a girl on an actual date." I don't expect anything else after these dates just because we held hands. I just enjoy holding hands, it makes me feel like a girly girl, without all of the pink and cheesy flirting.

Hugs....oh how I love hugs. Because of my 'I love you' fear, this helps me say I care about the person I'm hugging without having to say anything. Hugs are perfect for affectionate communicators like me. But really, who doesn't love a good hug?

So if you are having a bad day, come to me, tell me what's wrong, I will listen, say "How can I help, sweetie?", and give you a hug and be genuine about the whole thing. Just give me a chance to show you how I work, as unconventional it may be. (There might even be some ice cream to go with it)